Forgiving God or Forgiving People
When is it easy for you to forgive someone? Think about it. Maybe a waiter messes up your food order; that wouldn't (and shouldn't) keep you up at night! What does though? Normally it's the people who you are (were) close to; These could be family members, co-workers, or friends. Tossing and turning, you can't seem to shake the unforgiveness.
It is easy to forgive probably because you either don't think or forgot about what happened. It doesn't necessarily mean you forgave because you forgot though. If it's hard to forgive, then you realize it's a choice.
When is it Hard for you to Forgive
How do you see people? As God? Imagine if God sinned against you. Would you forgive him? Probably not. Who forgives someone who is perfect? When you see your spouse, friend, or sibling as God then it makes sense you don't forgive her. You should not forgive a perfect God or person who sins against you. Therefore, It's hard to forgive when you see her as God, perfect.
Viewing the Person as God or Needing Forgiveness
Before you choose to forgive, choose how to view her, as God or someone who needs forgiveness by God. If she needs forgiveness from God, remember that God is choosing to forgive her. You can forgive with God's help!
Questions to consider:
Do you see your spouse, friend, or family member as God or as a person who needs forgiveness from God?
Who do you see as perfect? God or people?